Is it love when he doesn’t use you as his D.P?

Warning: this post is rated 18!! I didn’t come here to preach, today is not Sunday

Compliments of the season to my wonderful family on here. How has the season been so far?  Mine has been really boring and I’m not denying this is undoubtedly my worst December ever. – I believe the best is yet to come!  I will give a recap on how I spent my Christmas  in a later post. 

Yesterday, I was chatting with a male friend and my amebo antenna was already as swift as 4G when I asked him the reason he never uses his girlfriend as his display picture. I was expecting to get a reasonable response like ‘my prophet said if i put her as my d.p, all her pubic hair will roast in 2days but what I got as a reply was ‘it’s not just my thing’.

Really? oga! It’s not just your thing to use her as your d.p but it’s just your thing to ask her out and also just your thing to tell her to call you ‘big daddy’ when you both  are doing the do abi? Ok! 

Come to think of it, why do guys make girls call them weird names when they are in cloud 9 Biko?  I really don’t understand it. That’s how a girl would use the same mouth she uses to greet her parents to call another man;

  • Daddy (after all your father has done for you?).
  • King (of which village?).
  • Anaconda (is he that long?).
  • Biggy Biggy (pls don’t let us in on how he is down there!  We don’t Wona know or do we? ).

Look what I found when I googled names men have been called during sex! 

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚….i like that he decided to see the positives though 

 A girl  was resetting your destiny and you did absolutely nothing πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

As for me, don’t even ask me to call you anything unless you are comfortable with me calling you ‘Amadioha!’. 

Anyways, back to the matter!  Am i the only one who feels there is no justification for not putting up photos of someone you claim to love and date?  What is wrong in   showing off  the person you claim to have found happiness/satisfaction in? 

I am of the belief that if a guy uses you as his display picture on whatever social media platform, it means you are special and he’s wadding the wannabes off that territory. Thereby, indirectly telling the other girls  that they are side flings and you, the one on his d.p, is the main chic right?  yet I noticed of all the guys on my contact, just 5% of them put up their partner’s photos. 

When i asked  the reason, majority of them said it was because they wanted a private life. You want a private life yet you are on social media?  You want a private life yet you posted photos of you in the aba version of Ebuka’s famous agbada and captioned it ‘man’s not hot’. You say you want a private life yet  you posted photos of all the turkey, egufe, Asun and Gizdodo you ate on 25th December  and captioned it ‘if God be for me…’  Well just know that I am against you because I don’t see the kind of private  you are privatizing.

Others gave the excuse that they were not yet  ready to introduce their girls to their families. Really?  You mean to say there has to be an introductory ceremony for any person, animal, place or thing you use as your d.p? What would make your family members be interested in harmless photos of a girl who is advertising her 32 set of teeth on your d.p?  Are your family members FBI  agents? If they are so interested and curious, can’t you just say she is your special sister in the lord until you feel you are ready enough to take her to your family?

 That  my male friend from yesterday also highlighted  that putting up his girl’s pic wasn’t something that could just happen as she would have to earn it. Please what is she earning? Is it salary?  or is it American visa?  He said he couldn’t put up her pic unless he trusts her, appreciates her, cherishes her and becomes proud of her. Till now I wonder what made him ask her out in the first place. Someone he is yet to love, appreciate and cherish? Ok! 

 Guys!!!! With all the excuses you may want to give, It’s in my opinion that the commonest reason you are not putting up your partner’s pic up there is because  you are cheating! you probably have a colony of  side chics on that same social media tool and you don’t have the strength  to start explaining who and the reason a strange girl is on your d.p to the rest of your girls. 

Secondly, maybe, Just maybe there is an ex somewhere on that same social media tool who you haven’t been bold enough to tell you have moved on and already dating someone else.  You are trying not to rub it in her face so she doesn’t call you a heartless son of a bitch right?

Lastly, you don’t just love your partner well enough and maybe not too proud of her for the show offs. I mean which man will be dating Nicki Minaj and say he doesn’t want her on his d.p? 

P. S: if you ever dream to date  or marry me and you don’t know I’m team #usemypicasyourd.p, then my brother wake up from your sleep and go drink some garri. You are just hungry! 

Well it’s just my opinion though. Tell me what you think in the comment section. Is it love when he doesn’t  put up your photos?… guys, why don’t you? 

Happy New Year in advance fam!! ❀❀❀❀

77 Replies to “Is it love when he doesn’t use you as his D.P?”

  1. πŸ˜‚ you no go kill person. Ok, since we’re commenting, DP or no DP love na love, but I think… This is a very awkward situation, if my girl dresses to slay, I’m going to put her up there, but if she doesn’t, I might create a special account for her picture to be my Dp. I’m not speaking for all guys I’m speaking for myself, to me I feel if you respect your woman you can use her on your DP even for atleast 30 min, just saying

  2. Am I in love with this post or am I in love with this post. I love your sense of humor and the fact that it’s so apt. I have questions Tho, what do you do in such a situation and you can’t ask bc you know, you’re a strong black independent woman hahahahah

    1. As a strong black independent woman, I would use tons of sexy guys pictures as d.p…. you like
      hot male friends I know personally (just friends)
      hot male models or athletes
      Trust me…one day it will pain him and ask you why you don’t use his pictures as d.p…stylishly say “ohh really…do you use mine as your d.p”

      oh…the first time he asks you who is the guy you are using as your d.p just say “one guy like that…”. second time “one hot male friend of mine” and sharply change topic

  3. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ this post tho. Lol, my man puts me on his dp tho… I was actually the one who had the problem of not putting him on my dp… My reason was “I’m lowkey”. Lol. But that was during the early stages of my relationship when the exes were still lurking 😯😯 Now, when he comes back from church, he’s there, when he’s shaving, he’s there, when he’s chilling, he’s there (because he’s a picture person lol). he’s all over my whatsapp famπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ with very cheesy captions (might I add) ☺️

    1. Awwwnnn
      You really met a good man
      The men I know, you will have to force them to put up ur pic and when they eventually do, they leave no caption as if you are a house maid. Smh

  4. Chinemerem, Am putting your pic as my d.p right away. So ur side guys can start sending amadioha on me. Lol. One of the ways of catching a player. Just make that demand and they ill tell you how amadioha blocked the picture uploading app on their phone. Some players wouldn’t like this I knw.

    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚….I’m telling you…i know them well… You don’t have to tell me.. May amadioha continue to block their pictures from uploading

      1. I believe you are trying to say that the real MVPs will have your pictures up and still do underground stuffs? God help him Bcos blowing his brains out is what I’d do for leisure.

        And haylyejah.. How come you know them so well?

        1. Lol, lived with two of them, twas crazy the way they played tic-tac-toe on babes, it was confusing at first, then OMG. I knew the full meaning of ‘Heartless’.
          But what’s my own, I wasn’t there when the Yes word joyfully dashed out

          1. Haha…. I still don’t understand the reason guys think keeping dozens of women around is an achievement. It actually helps most of them boost their self esteem. Really?

          2. Got this from my πŸ“”
            Same pertains to the opp sex embarking on an endless journey of dates, society often sympathizes with them, attributing their lack of success to the clichΓ© that there are no decent men out there. The woman is often viewed as the victim who just can’t catch a break.
            When men engage in the same behavior, the perception is that these men are womanizers, unable commit, flawed or solely out for sex.
            They are looking for β€œthe one.” A lot of these perceived players are simply playing the numbers game, hoping to find that special someone
            Please this story get many chapters.

  5. So far it’s your lover, with the level of technology and social media, You’ve every reason to. Nice post by the way

    1. Exactly!!
      Like how does that even define love?
      Who forced you to ask me out since you are so Interested in becoming 21st century king Solomon with all the wives and concubines In the world?
      Total B.S

  6. OMG!! What! You are just too mouthed.. Well I agree with your reasons and also it could be that the girl in question doesn’t want her photo to be used as dp.

        1. Well I believe girls really love to be take pictures and see it on people’s wall. It makes them blush stupidly… So I feel if a gal insist you shouldn’t use her pic, it’s Bcos she doesn’t like you enough. Ask any girl

  7. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ babe some guys are cunny ooo.. so there is this guy that is asking a friend of mine out, and he has a girlfriend. He uses her pictures, her family pictures as dp and he still has the audacity to be asking my friend out.
    But honestly if you won’t show me off and use me as d.p why should I….some guys be like I don’t want to use you as d.p so my friends won’t steal you from me… I’m with you on the team #usemeasyourd.p

    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      Pleassseee you mean guys say that?
      That they dont want to use your pic so that their friends won’t steal you?
      I have peed on myself πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      Do you know some ladies will find it cute and blush like a she goat?.

      1. they do ooo…yeye people.
        Stupid girls, they will be like “oh honey,I can’t believe you love me that much”😒😟😩
        Nne abeg use my picture when your friends start toasting me we will cross that bridge

        1. Hahaha. U see y I like you… When we get to that bridge, ocean, seven seas, lake..we will cross it! Just put the pic first let’s know our position Biko!

          Thanks for your comments πŸ’“πŸ’“πŸ’•

  8. Maybe i’m one of the strange few, personally I don’t believe because I’m on social media, then every thing about me has to be out there, one of such is my relationship and some other things too. Doesn’t mean he will never go up on my d.p tho. Secondly I have seen situations where when someone breaks up, they delete every picture of their partner and when they get into the next relationship, they begin to upload pictures of the new one again… pheww! I don’t like that either. I would only comfortably litter your pictures every where when we get married maybe.

    1. Bella you made a very good point…in as much as I preach ‘put your partner’s pic up on your dp’.. It doesn’t necessarily mean you should use it to cause traffic and disturb other ppl cos that’s when ppl will start poking their noses into your affairs and majority really can’t wait for you two to breakup and when amadioha answers their prayers, it’s only you that will sit down to delete 2,220 photos of you both from Fbk.. 520 from Instagram, and you probably still be deleting the ones from gallery when the trumpet will sound.

      Ok o!

      1. β€œ… when amadioha answers their prayers” β€œ… when the trumpet will sound” hahahahaha πŸ˜‚ your are always cracking me up! Last last we need to β€˜stay woke’ as they say, from these type of guys you mentioned in your post.

    1. I don’t even get it… Like why ask her out and then put her through the stress of earning a chance to be on your dp… I think he has to come here to explain himself before we beat him up spiritual.

      1. Relationship is over rated, u don’t put some1 pics on ur dp wen u re not married to him or her. Relationship is an excuse of having sex outside marriage 99%.

        1. You seem to be making lot of sense but Instead of framing you want a relationship with us, why not just say u are looking for who to Fuck? So we know what we are getting into?

  9. I miss reading your post and as usual, you didn’t disappoint πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ my dear, it’s not by using your picture as DP oh. Some demons will use it and still deny you when the other women ask. “ohh she’s just a friend and today is her birthday” smh πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

  10. Lmaoo, this Peace will not kill me!

    Well, i am indifferent
    Put my pic, fine!
    My pic is not up there, Great!

    If you like, be having an affair with some side chicken wing, who knows if im with one Otedola with d moneyπŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ€”

    The opposite of single is married
    So my sister if you are not married, you are single oh! Dont let dp decieve youπŸ˜‚

    Let your husband find you, marry him if you want, stay in love, stay happy.

    Is rather not be on your dp and you stay faithful mbok!
    Some of these people are pros! You can never meet all their family pipo oo! Today the girl at dp is his cousins sisterπŸ˜‚ , the next girl tomorrow will be cousins daughter inlawπŸ˜‚
    Babe!!! You really dont wanto knowπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

    Lemme come and be going abegπŸ˜‚

    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      Please are you telling me?
      Haven’t I seen?
      Men! Men! Men!
      Very deceitful people

      But y will you ask me out and naw be using me to play tinko tinko??

  11. My sister, I am always team use my pic as your dp oo…. I get issues like y wouldn’t you? If u dare to say send me pics and I send u 10; pick the most modest and put it up there….let the side chicks all know there’s a main chick in the house! However, I seldom put a guys pic on my dp unless we are together in d pic…. and before anyone comes for me, If by any chance the guy wants me to make him my WhatsApp DP…I will! Just for som hours, lol ☺️

    1. Lool..
      You know there is this guy who always asked me for pictures. I send from 5-10 daily…on slay days I send upto 15… But till date, that guy never flashed me on his d. p… I also noticed he never puts up any girl, that was when I knew we were plenty and bobo Prolly didn’t even know who the main chic was. Sighs

  12. Putting up Her picture shouldn’t be an issue, but some girls feels that you are now dating means they can run your social media… First, you both need to have an understanding of what you share, that understanding is what defines what you share to the World of you two… When and how.

    If we are dating, I will sure use you as my dp, status update, etc.. but that doesn’t mean I cannot use other female friends..

    Showing your hands in a relationship is what matters most from the get go, understanding birthed in communication, fascilitated by Listening… That’s the tool needed to shade off lil foxes that might become negative forces in your relationship.


    1. Derick Derick!
      You have made sense…
      If you gona put me up and your female friends , Kosi Wahala
      Let the captions make the distinctions Biko… Dats what we want!

  13. Nema thank you for making me Laugh my 1st ass off in 2018..I almost died but God held me and said I v to wait to read more of ur post..So I can’t die cos I know u would keep writing and even better this year..Its sad I’m single I would v loved to let my bf read this post..Come to think of it I should let all my exes read it. So dey come and explain dereself in here y I wasn’t posted while we dated. Nonsense!

    1. Hahaha
      Thank Goodness you laughed at the beginning of the year… It means your laughter is unlimited throughout this very celebrated year…

      Lool… God will give you a boo in 2018.. Pls claim the blessing.. When the boo eventually comes, you ppl should just buy me a Mercedes to thank me… I don’t really need much and for those guys that refused to use your pictures as d.p,…. You see the reason they fit the ex list?

  14. Well, someone putting you up as DP doesn’t mean you are the main person in his/her life. Human beings can lie about everything including a profile picture.
    It’s not compulsory in a serious and true relationship and wouldn’t make it any less of a relationship, sometimes it even ends up causing lots of problems.

    1. I believe when you love someone, you show them may not be Compulsory IN a true and serious relationship but it passes a message to ur partner. That u value them and yeah u are proud to have them. Everyone will blush, seeing that their partner put up their pic esp with cheesy captions …it may not be compulsory but it is part of doing the needful in a relationship

  15. Girl… You are cracking me up… I’m absolutely in love with you…
    Hey love πŸ™‹
    I agree with you o… Me, if I find someone I really want to settle with, the least I can do is put your picture up and thank God for your existence. Not necessarily blab about how we are dating and everyone should forget about him and this is going to last… Blah.. Blah. Terrorize everyone on my instagram page… after even putting dodo Frittata on my instagram story πŸ˜‚
    But you’d certainly be on my dp, at least once sef..

    1. I love you too gal❀❀

      You see, it’s really important to ask your partner to put up your pic once in a week or twice. Its definitely a trusted way of knowing if you the side fling or team #main….

      I wouldn’t advise anyone to terrorize their contacts with loved up pictures of boo/ bae all the time Bcos when boo/bae breaks your heart.. The amadiohas on your contact will laugh at you like its A. Y live show

  16. Hehehe Peace! You are someone I’d enjoy having coffee with so we can have these funny yet thought provoking conversations πŸ˜€
    Well, I’ve never really thought about my pic being on my man’s dp but I’ve been on his profile where he proudly talks about me & that really does make me smile. The feeling of knowing he has eyes only for you is a good one! We deserve to feel special & secure especially when we know there are women out there who aim to be the so called Side chicks.
    Happy New Year, my dear! πŸ™‚ <3

    1. Sure gal… Soon, I hope to make a trip to Kenya. Amen!
      And yeah, we need these men to make us feel special and secure. Most men don’t like insecure women, but have you given her reasons to feel secure?
      Why not Strt by doing the lil things like put her up there so she knows the women who have talents for being side chicks have nothing on you. And well, same goes for the women. Put him up there too!

  17. Lol
    So I should use my girlfriend’s photo as my Facebook Profile Picture huh? What happens when people are searching for me on Facebook? You want me to lose valuable contacts abi? Your plans will not work!

  18. Yes o.. True talk.. Many of those guys are actually double dating or have something to hide.. Nice post and I absolutely love your writing skills.. Keep it up

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